Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Don't Ask, Don't Give (Reposted from AMERICAblog)

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Take the Pledge:

Don't Ask, Don't Give
"It is not enough to look back in wonder at how far we have come; those who came before us did not strike a blow against injustice only so that we would allow injustice to fester in our time. That means removing the barriers of prejudice and misunderstanding that still exist in America." - Democratic Party Platform, 2008

President Obama promised to be a "fierce advocate" for LGBT Americans. But while making modest progress on a scant few issues, on the major campaign promises made to our community, the President and the Democratic party have failed to keep their commitments.

There has been little, if any, pressure from the White House for votes on the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA). The administration continues to send mixed signals on the repeal of Don't Ask, Don't Tell (DADT). And we've been told not to expect the repeal of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) to even be considered until President Obama's second term. In the last two weeks alone, we were angered that the Obama administration continued to defend DOMA in the courts -- last June, the administration's lawyers even compared loving gay relationships to incest and pedophilia -- and we were saddened that the White House and the Democratic party refused to help us defeat anti-gay ballot initiatives in Maine and Washington state. LGBT Americans, our families, and our friends kept our promise at the ballot box, we now expect President Obama to keep his in the White House.

Until the Democratic Congress passes, and President Obama signs, legislation enacting ENDA, repealing DADT, and repealing DOMA, we ask you to join us in pledging to postpone contributions to the Democratic National Committee, Organizing for America, and the Obama campaign. This temporary (we hope) boycott is sponsored by AMERICAblog, and cosponsored by Daily Kos, Michelangelo Signorile, and Paul Sousa, among others.

This isn't forever, the Democrats have it in their power to end this today -- all it takes is choosing to keep their promise.

Please join us in taking the pledge, below. And find out more about why we believe this action to be important and necessary in the post below the pledge. Thank you so much for your support.

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Repost from AMERICAblog

Reposted from AMERICAblog:

Monday, November 9, 2009

Don't Ask, Don't Give

Joe and I are launching today a donor boycott of the DNC. The boycott is cosponsored by Daily Kos, Jane Hamsher of FireDogLake, Dan Savage, Michelangelo Signorile, David Mixner, Andy Towle and Michael Goff of Towle Road, Paul Sousa (Founder of Equal Rep in Boston), Pam Spaulding, Robin Tyler (ED of the Equality Campaign, Inc.), Bil Browning for the Bilerico Project, and soon others.

It's really more of a "pause," than a boycott. Boycotts sounds so final, and angry. Whereas this campaign is temporary, and is only meant to help some friends - President Obama and the Democratic party - who have lost their way. We are hopeful that via this campaign, our friends will keep their promises.

So please sign the Petition and take a Pledge to no longer donate to the DNC, Organizing for America, or the Obama campaign until the President and the Democratic party keep their promises to the gay community, our families, and our friends.

You can find our Frequently Asked Questions, below, that explain the entire campaign. You can use our "Tell a Friend" page to tell all of your friends, family members, and coworkers about this effort (and we won't keep any of the email addresses you enter, they'll all be deleted after the emails are sent).

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

What is this?
We are asking voters to pledge to withhold contributions to the Democratic National Committee, Organizing for America, and the Obama campaign until the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA) is passed, Don’t Ask Don’t Tell (DADT) is repealed, and the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) is repealed -– all of which President Obama repeatedly promised to do if elected.

Why are you asking people to take this pledge?
Candidate Obama promised during the campaign to be the gay community’s “fierce advocate.” He and the Democratic party have not kept their promise.

Can you give examples of how the President and Democrats have not been fierce advocates for the civil rights of gay and lesbian Americans?


But won’t your pledge hurt Democrats?
It never hurts Democrats to keep their promises to the voters. The American people respect strong leaders who have the courage to stick to their beliefs. And it will only help Democrats in the next election to stand by their commitments to a core constituency. If Democratic voters aren't motivated, they won't vote. We are concerned that the President's failure to fulfill his promises may suppress voter participation not only from gay Democrats, but from our families, friends and allies. In a very real way, this is an effort to ensure that we get-out-the-vote in 2010, 2012 and beyond.

But if you don’t give money to the DNC, won’t that help elect Republicans who are even worse on gay issues, and other issues Democrats care about?
We are not calling for a boycott of donations to the DNC. We are simply calling for a pause until the party follows through on its campaign promise to repeal DADT and DOMA, and pass ENDA. The party will get the same donations it would have gotten, when the promises are kept. The Democrats could choose to make good on their promise today. And by doing so, they will only further motivate the Democratic base to again turn out for the next election, a decidedly good thing.

You have to admit, gay rights is controversial – wouldn’t it be political suicide for Democrats to push gay rights?
Democrats should not have promised to support gay civil rights rights in exchange for our votes if they never intended to keep the promise. If we're not controversial during the campaign, when politicians are happy to accept our votes and our money, we cannot accept being labeled controversial after our candidates win. We kept our part of the bargain, we voted for Barack Obama and a Democratic Congress. It’s entirely reasonable for us to ask our elected officials to keep their part of the bargain too.

What's more, gay rights are not controversial. Americans favor allowing openly gay men and lesbian women to serve in the military by a margin of 69% - 26%. By a margin of 57% - 37%, "A clear majority of Americans (57%) favors allowing gay and lesbian couples to enter into legal agreements with each other that would give them many of the same rights as married couples." That can't happen if DOMA is the law. And in fact, if these civil rights promises were controversial, they would have hurt candidate Obama at the polls. But, he proudly and loudly proclaimed his support for LGBT equality, and he won.

No matter how disappointed you are, aren’t Democrats still better than Republicans?
The Republican party is terrible on gay issues. That doesn’t excuse the Democratic party breaking specific promises to the gay community made in exchange for our votes. We didn’t break our promise at the ballot box, the Democrats shouldn’t break theirs after we helped put them into office.

President Obama has only been in office less than a year, why the rush?
In less than a year, serious damage has already been done to the President’s commitments to the gay community. The problem isn’t only that he hasn’t been quick enough to fulfill his promises, it’s that he has actually backtracked on his promises and hurt the cause of civil rights and our community, as detailed above.

But aren’t there bigger priorities than gay rights for the Democrats to deal with, like health care and the economy?
Would President Obama, the DNC and the Congress tell other minorities that their civil rights aren't important? The suggestion is that Democrats have more important things on the table. When won't Democrats have more important priorities than the civil rights of gays and lesbians? Will there ever be a day, a year, an administration, when the President and the Congress won't have serious crises to deal with? Suggesting that gay Americans and their friends and families wait until the President and Congress have nothing else to do is not only insulting, it's a recipe for never. And regardless, we trust that this President, unlike the previous, can walk and chew gum at the same time.

Who is behind this effort?
John Aravosis and Joe Sudbay, two longtime political operatives in Washington, DC, and the editors of AMERICAblog.com. AMERICAblog has raised over $300,000 for Democratic candidates and progressive causes, including nearly $50,000 for then-candidate Barack Obama, supported by AMERICAblog early in the primaries. The boycott is cosponsored by Daily Kos, Jane Hamsher of FireDogLake, Dan Savage, Michelangelo Signorile, David Mixner, Andy Towle and Michael Goff of Towle Road, Paul Sousa (Founder of Equal Rep in Boston), Pam Spaulding, Robin Tyler (ED of the Equality Campaign, Inc.), Bil Browning for the Bilerico Project, and soon others.

You can contact us at: dncboycott@gmail.com

How can I help?
Sign the pledge, tell your friends about this campaign, read the blog, and stay tuned for updates and action alerts on how you help make sure that the President, the Congress and the Democratic party keep their promises to the LGBT community, our families, our friends and our allies.

A Joke and a Farce

The New York State Senate is being run in a manner that makes it a joke and a farce. I hope that New Yorkers remember how little respect the current State Senators have shown for the State of New York or it's residents when all the State Senate seats are up for election in November 2010. The strongest way to register our disbelief at their irresponsibility would be to turn every one of them out of office, regardless of their political party or tenure.

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Awakening

The day of my spiritual awakening
was the day I saw
and knew I saw
all things in God
and God in all things.

- Mechthild of Magdeburg

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

The Peace of God

Nothing real can be threatened.
Nothing unreal exists.
Herein lies the peace of God.

- A Course in Miracles

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Liberty and Justice for All


Monday, November 2, 2009

Reality

"Reality is merely an illusion,
albeit a very persistent one."

Albert Einstein

Friday, October 30, 2009

The True One and the Adversary

I have been familiar with the story of Jesus' temptation by Satan as long as I can remember. While Jesus was living among us in human form, Satan offered to give Jesus the kingdoms of the world if Jesus would worship him. I have heard and read the story many times, and have long understood it as an example of Jesus' strength and perfection in being able to resist Satan's temptation. We are encouraged to follow Jesus' example and resist temptation, too.

Implicit in the story is the idea that possessing and ruling the kingdoms of the world would be a wonderful thing - otherwise it would not have been a temptation. I've not questioned that before, but I now realize the pointlessness and worthlessness of this "gift" compared to the purpose for Jesus' birth, death, and resurrection as told in the Christian Gospel.

According to the Christian Bible, Jesus already had everything he temporarily and eternally needed. Jesus didn't come to earth as a human to make himself better, but instead to help others who were - according to the story - unworthy of his sacrifice. His purpose was to demonstrate unselfish love and grace. It was not to become a worldly leader. Jesus was already at one with the divine Father, and completely in harmony with the Spirit of God. Had Jesus accepted Satan's offer, he might have lived many years as a good ruler, but putting any selfish desire to posses the world ahead of his planned unselfish love gift would have been the complete opposite of his purpose. Who can know how the story would have ended if Jesus had fallen for the illusion that there was something more important than demonstrating God's love?

Today I for the first time realized that it's also a story about me (and you). In the oneness of I AM, the soul has all that it needs: peace, joy, love, etc. It is not the soul that leads us into ever more busy-ness. It is not the soul that forgets to stop and smell the flowers. It is not the soul that turns it's back on what is essential and eternal while chasing for ever greater possession, success, power, and distraction. The soul IS, and neither increases nor diminishes in value as a result of worldly pursuits.

It is along this train of thought that I now realize the story also applies to me (and you). The essence of our being is our soul - our essential connection to all that is, was, or ever will be. It is our soul that manifests the divine energy and presence that is eternal. For, as we have heard before, we are called to be in the world, but not of it. We are something far greater and more wonderful that slight blips in the history of the world. However, our egos aren't satisfied with this great message and purpose. Our egos tell us that we aren't good enough, aren't strong enough, aren't successful enough, aren't beautiful enough, aren't loved or lovable enough, and aren't safe enough. As a result, more often than not we find ourselves chasing elusive goals that can never be satisfy us. We sometimes achieve the successes that the ego holds out for us, only to find out that our achievements are still not sufficient. We fall into the illusion that the ego's world is the real center of our being and purpose, and forget about the divine spark within us - our soul.

Jesus was in the world, but not of it, because he did not allow it to distract him from his true purpose. He wisely rejected the illusive "gifts" offered by Satan. In the same way, our egos take the role of Satan and distract us from the truth of who any why we are, offering us all sorts of "gifts" that we aren't even seeking. As we reach out to grasp the gifts the ego offers, we run the very real risk of losing sight of own souls. For those readers who have known this all along, I apologize for my many words, but in case you hadn't thought of the story this way, I wanted to share this perspective.

Friday, October 2, 2009

I promise...

Sean, I promise to be faithful to you
In body, in mind, and in spirit
As long as we live.
I never imagined I would find a companion
As wonderful as you,
Much less that such a marvelous person
Would return my love
I will work hard to keep my love strong.
I will strive to remain your friend and confidant.
I will give you the space you need,
And encourage your individuality.
I promise to remember that neither of us is perfect,
So that I will be more understanding when we disagree.
I will respect your opinion, even when it differs from my own.
I will say, “I’m sorry” when I disappoint you.
I will remember to say, “Thank you” for the love and kindness you show me.
I will not let you forget that I love you.
I promise to love you with my actions, as well as with my words.
I will marvel at your beauty.
I will hold you in affectionate embraces.
I promise to do everything I can to protect you from harm.
I will never stop praying for you, or for us.
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will grow old with you.
I, Jeffrey, promise you, Sean, that I will be your partner for life.

Forever and Forever

In the rain the pavement shines like silver
All the lights are misty in the river
In the darkness, the trees are full of starlight
And all I see is him and me forever and forever
- - - "On My Own" from Les Miserables